The Modern Woman’s Dating Manifesto
I determine my own fate. I choose my own adventure.
My sexuality does not define me nor does it limit me. Love is love. I believe what Nat King Cole sang: “The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.”
I deserve respect. I deserve to be seen and treated as an equal.
Consent is of the utmost importance. It isn’t optional. No means no. Stop means stop. Don’t means don’t.
I don’t owe anybody anything. If you have a dick and you pay for dinner, I don’t owe you sex or a blow job afterwards. If you show up / open the door / make me laugh / shower / whatever, good for you. I did all that too. And we don’t owe each other anything but respect.
If I sleep with you on the first date, that’s my choice. It’s my right as a sexual being to express my sexuality as I desire in a consensual setting. It does not make me a slut. If I don’t sleep with you for fifty dates, that’s also my choice. It’s my right as a sexual being to not sleep with you. It does not make me a prude.
“I won’t be ignored, Dan.”
I won’t be objectified for your amusement because I am not an object. I am a fully realized and nuanced human being. I am not a sex toy.
Sometimes you’ll pay and that doesn’t make me a gold digger. Sometimes I’ll pay and that doesn’t mean I’m emasculating you. Sometimes we’ll split the bill because we’re both functional adults that way.
Eating should be fun. I might want three desserts and that’s my right. I might only want salad and that’s also my right. Eat and let live.
Don’t be offended when I refuse to tell you where I live or come to your place on first dates. It’s not personal to you but it is personal for me. #YesAllWomen.
The Friend Zone is something you made up to soothe your own ego. Stop saying it.
I reserve the right to end the date at any time if you are offensive or dull. It doesn’t make me a tease.
I am woman, hear me roar.
- Corinne Simpson